At times, it may seem like fighting among siblings occurs all the time. However, approaching these fights appropriately may help the teenagers acquire crucial skills necessary for social relationships in their adult life. If you have been noticing frequent sibling fights in your family, there is no need to worry because that is a normal occurrence. Teenagers often argue just like young children about various things. Additionally, they tend to use a language that is more grown-up. Fighting among siblings can be both disappointing and stressful but it helps in the acquisition of important skills such as problem solving and conflict resolution, negotiation skills in addition to dealing with people’s opinions.
How then can you resolve sibling battles in your family? You can start by encouraging your children to resolve their differences by themselves. It is difficult for a parent to sit back and refrain from helping their kids resolve conflicts but it is also a good way of helping the kids acquire problem solving skills. Additionally, teach the children on the various ways of dealing with conflicts. Note that, if you always step in when there is a dispute, you may end up taking sides which may make one child feel that they have been treated unfairly.
Moreover, ensure that you are always updated on how each quarrel wad handled; that way, you will identify the child that is always dominating and the one who is forced to compromise. Ensure that both kids always reach a compromise but if it’s not possible, introduce a consequence that will affect the two.
Most importantly, monitor your kids to ensure that there is no extreme verbal and physical fighting. Such conflicts can ruin the relationship of the kids significantly and that’s why you need to intervene when such fights occur.
Though sibling fights are common and healthy, they also need to be monitored closely.